CAUSES OF FAILED MARRIAGES

Marriage is a legal union of a man and a woman, usually founded on love. Some people say it is an institution where you get admitted but never graduate. I think they are right because marriage is ordained to last as long as

THE POWER OF BEING APPRECIATIVE

Let's take this illustration; lady A was stranded on a high way at an godly hour in the night. Luckily for her, a good samaritan just came from no where and gave her a free ride. When she reached her destination, all she could do was to leave without saying thank you to the person. How do you think the good samaritan will feel? Bad, right? That is how a benefactor feels when his beneficiary fails to appreciate him. Actually, I don't think people help others so they (benefactors) will be appreciated but because they are

SEE CRITICISM AS A MOTIVATOR

In life, you must surely receive criticism, especially when you are living out a passion. It is important to know that not all criticism is demeaning. Criticism can be constructive (good and corrective) or destructive (out of jealousy). A constructive criticism points out flaws in your work and logically profers solution on how to get it right. It first acknowledges your efforts and then goes further to tell you where you are not as perfect as

THE POWER OF FORGIVENESS: WHAT IT DOES FOR YOU

Have you ever been spitefully treated by someone you did no wrong? Has your child ever non-challantly disobeyed your instructions which were given for his own good? Has your spouse ever cheated on you? Has your close friend, whom you so much trusted, sold you out for a penny?

The best and the most effective remedy for the above is FORGIVENESS. What then is forgiveness? Forgiveness is the act of refusing to punish someone or yourself for a committed offence. Here, an offence is committed (by the offender) which needs to be punished (by the offended), but the offended chooses to spare the offender the punishment.

Does it mean we shouldn't get angry whenever we are offended? Emphatically, no. In fact, it is human and natural to be angry and even the Bible acknowledges that ( Ephesians 4:26). We are admonished to deal with our anger right away and not let the sun go down on our anger. I then ask, what other better way can we stop our anger from lingering on till the sun goes down if not by

PROCRASTINATION: ITS DANGERS AND REMEDY

Procrastination is the act of deferring an action or actions that can possibly be done now to a later time hoping to get such task done in the later period. The action here can be likened to an adventure or any activity that is very vital to you or whatever you intend to become in the nearest future.

One funny thing about procrastination is that the person finds himself

MAINTAINING A SWEET RELATIONSHIP - PART 3

In the part 1 and part 2 of this article, I discussed the important things and the essential elements of a sweet relationship respectively. In this part 3, I will be discussing practical ways of conflict resolution in marriage. Marriage is a mixture of sweetness and bitterness, but the way you go about it is what makes the difference. Conflict in relationships is inevitable hence the necessity

MAINTAINING A SWEET RELATIONSHIP - PART 2

In the part 1 of this article, I discussed important things you need to know about relationships(marriage). In this part 2, I will be discussing essential elements of a sweet relationship. I call them ingredients of sweet relationship. There is this my local adage which says, "better soup na money make am" (ie, tasty soup is costly). For every sweet relationship, the parties involved invested a lot in it. Here are the elements:

Love

You cannot truly stay long in a relationship with someone you don't love. You should first of all, have an affection for someone before you can

MAINTAINING A SWEET RELATIONSHIP - PART 1

Being successful in relationships demands a lot of preparations and investments. I dedicate this article to the married especially those whose marriages are shaky. For your relationship to be a sweet one, you need to get acquainted with the following:

There is no Miss or Mr right

We all have our weaknesses. So, if you are looking for a Miss or Mr right, I'm sorry you may search for eternity. Appreciate the qualities you like

MAINTAINING FOCUS IN LIFE

Living a focused life is one of the best things that can happen to you. A focused life is the one in which the person has already decided who he/she wants to be in life, has mapped out plans on how to become such, and is actively pursuing such plans. So many of us dream big: some want to be lawyers, engineers, doctors, successful business men or women, powerful politicians, etc. How many of us make the needed moves to actualize these dreams? It is one thing to dream big, and it is another thing to make the dreams come true. In fact, the big deal lies with the actualization of

LIFE IS BEAUTIFUL TO PEOPLE WITH BEAUTIFUL HEART

Can life be beautiful in a world where insurgency, corruption, bribery, discrimination of all kinds, poverty, diseases, unemployment, political instability, you name them, are the order of the day? Someone may ask. I tell you that there are real people who still enjoy every minute of their lives. That's unrealistic! You said? It is real for I am one of them.

Let's see how this can be.

People with beautiful heart see things differently. They see challenging and hard situations as processes that are

BE THE BEST YOU CAN BE

You are created to be at your best in all that you do. God does not create a failure, but you have the will power to remain in this state or choose otherwise. Make a conscious effort to be the best at whatever you do. Always go for the best and not the average. Eschew eye-service; do things excellently irrespective of who is watching.

Imbibe the character of making sure that anything you decide to do is properly done, and also make it a policy to go over it again and again so as to give no room for unnecessary error. This is why it is of utmost importance that you choose a

THE BENEFITS OF STANDING FOR WHAT YOU BELIEVE IN

What do you believe in? What do you represent? Are you the kind of person whose choices in life are always overridden? Can you always maintain your ground in an issue you are fully convinced that you are on the right path? Do you so much cherish a society where tolerance, freedom and varieties prevail? If you are one, then this piece is for you.

I am writing this piece for those who so much love a corrupt-free society, where everyone is treated equally irrespective of his or her race, religion, educational background, social status or financial status. I mean people who are sacrificial and can never rest until things are

10 INTERESTING THINGS HAPPY PEOPLE DO

We all want to be happy: no one shuns happiness. Happiness stems from inside of us. Some people look for happiness where it does not exist. We need to understand that happiness is what we own ourselves, and no other person is in a better position to make us happy other than ourselves. In this write up, I discussed ten interesting habits of happy people. Read on.

They believe in themselves

Happy people recognise their abilities. They fully understand that if they don't believe in themselves, no one else will. They have the I-can-do mindset, and so, they always focus their minds on

HOW TO GET THE BEST OUT OF LIFE

Be Peaceful

Love and cherish peace. Be an ambassador of peace wherever you are. Don't create troubles where there are none, and advocate for peace in the midst of troubles. When there is peace, you can have rest of mind, concentrate in your business and make progress. Troubles take away peace, love, happiness, progress, unity and long life. 

Take absolute Control of your Tongue

Refrain from speaking lies and hurtful words. Let your yes be yes and your no be no. Be mindful of every word that comes out of your mouth because you shall account for them. Be straight forward and easy going. When someone forms the habit of telling lies, it is very difficult to stop. The person will always lie about everything. It takes more lies to cover up a lie. One of the reasons why I love telling the truth is that

TIPS ON HOW TO FIND AND KEEP INSPIRATION

Life is more interesting when we live for something. It does not really matter what the world around you says. what matters is what you do about the situation around you. I believe each and everyone of us is here for a purpose. A life without purpose is not worth living. Inspiration is a creative force that empowers us to actualize our purpose in life. Interestingly, most times, we have to go after inspiration; we don't have to wait for it. I love this quote:

    "Hold fast to dreams, for if dreams die, 

     life is a broken-winged bird that cannot fly". 

     Langston Hughes. 

It is one thing to light a candle, and it is another thing to keep the fire burning. Below are tips on how to get inspired and retain the inspiration.

 

Make a maximum input 

Before one becomes inspired, something must have caused it. It is what you have inside of you that manifests on the outside. Invest in inspiration. Get books and CDs on inspiration. Read and listen to them over and over again. Even when your mind has absorbed the contents, securely keep the books and CDs for future reference. Attend seminars, conferences, and join groups that share similar passion as you. There is no amount of investment in inspiration that

PRACTICAL WAYS TO OVERCOME HARD TIMES

To live is to meet challanges. The path of life is not a levelled ground. Whether you are ready and equipped for the challanges of life or not, they must come your way. The concept of a perfect world is a mirage; it doesn't exist.

In relationships, sometimes, we taste their bitter parts: family dispute, jittery or betrayal by a loved one. At times in life we experience financial issues  at a point when so many bills are waiting for us to be paid. The death of someone so dear and indispensable to us can plunge us into pains.  Unfulfilled career or destiny is another issue to worry about.

I observed that the older we grow; the bigger our obligations. We shouldn't run away from our problems instead we must tackle them head on. Even when the expenses of your education, for instance, are being taken care of, you are still faced with the responsibility of making a good grade. When it is time to join the labour market, the issues of getting a good job or starting one, paying some unavoidable bills, finding the right partner, providing for your family, etc will be there waiting for us. I call these challenges "promotional tests". Why? Because if you overcome; you get stronger and wiser than you were.  But if you are defeated; you become a failure, at least in that aspect. Life is not and will never be a bed of roses. In this article, I explored practical ways by which we can overcome hard times. Let's go there.

HOW TO MAKE YOUR DAY VERY EXCITING.

It is said that a journey of one thousand miles starts with a step. In this article, let us see how you can program yourself  to have an exciting day. If you can have a joyful day, you can as well live a happy

HOW TO BUILD GOOD CHARACTER

Have you been wondering about making your character a better one. You are in the right place.Character is one of the few things that is uniquely yours, and it can't be forcefully snatched from you. You own it to the core.

Abraham lincoln says, "character is like a tree and reputation like a shadow. The shadow is what we think of it, the tree is the real thing". Character can be changed either positively or otherwise, depending on the individual's choice. we humans can learn characters aside our own. We can as well dispose our character if we decide to. H. Jackson Brown noted that "we have to build character piece to piece - by thought, choice, courage, and determination".

A person, whose friends with whom he/she spends reasonable time, shares ideas or even belief, is likely to